I am Shonel
12 years ago my mother died of stomach cancer.
It shook me to my core & fear began growing inside me, I could feel it.
Her death taught me more than I could have ever imagined.
For that growth, I am grateful. Her death changed my life in the best possible way.
Sometimes it feels odd saying that out loud.
But I do.
10 years later it was my turn, it was as if I had seen it coming.
It felt strangely familiar.
I was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer.
It accounts for only 15% of breast cancers but 50% of deaths.
It shook my existence, the fear came flooding back like a tidal wave, desperately attempting to overcome every ounce of me.
It was as it if the fear longed for me to drown and at times it literally felt as though I couldn’t breathe. I was riding the wave of ‘worst possible scenarios’ in my mind.
Then I remembered ‘sometimes we fall down because there is something down there we are supposed to find’...
I thought of my mum, what her loss did for me many moons ago.
I decided to use that.
I was going to find a way to use that to help others while healing myself.
I believe you found me for a reason & I'm grateful that you are here.
'Life on Standby' docu-series is OUT NOW
'Life on Standby' is a 9 part short form docu-series that follows the ups and downs of Shonel’s journey with Triple Negative Breast Cancer. Her experience from diagnosis, through treatment during COVID 19 and all aspects of cancer becoming a part of her family’s life is captured in a raw and honest way that will penetrate your heart.
The series also documents her incredibly spiritual experience that explores the levels of human spirit through healing all aspects of health. The full series is out now. View here.
Unique gifts to Support YOUR Girls
Knowing what to gift people facing adversity is extremely challenging. Often the things we think are going to be received well can make their lives harder. From being on the receiving end of this, Shonel has carefully and lovingly curated some beautiful yet practical items for you to choose from. Whether it be a ‘So Hot Right Now’ fan for hot flashes, or a Full Chemo pack of goodness to make them smile. There is something here for people facing diagnosis, undergoing treatment or wanting to support a loved one who is.
You really need to ‘read the room’. Most people just want to be heard, not given advice. They want understanding and empathy, they may not want a positive spin on everything. Yet some might. They need their feelings and emotions validated. Yet there is no rule book on how to best do this with any given individual based on their needs in that specific moment in time.
Cancer has stripped me of my innocence. I miss the naive way I used to walk through the world. Knowing all too well that bad things existed, as I watched them unfold around me. I knew I wasn't immune, yet my innocence seemingly protected me from the possibility of them becoming my reality.
My hair, other than being my security blanket to hide my insecurities behind, was always one of my favourite features. It was thick, messy and wild at times. I loved it.